3 Faux “Reasons” People Give For Staying In A Job They Dislike (And Their Solutions)
It’s almost societally accepted that we’re meant to hate our jobs.
The workday is meant to be a grindstone. It’s about being “chained to your desk”. It’s the misery of working for a terrible boss or being forced to spend time with colleagues you would never pick as friends. The end of work is a delight you can hardly contain; the Sunday night blues – as you contemplate your return to work – is a cause of endless sadness.
Considering how much of our lives we spend working, isn’t it a bit… odd… that we’ve all become so desensitized to the idea that work is terrible? If you have a hobby that you do for a couple of hours a week, then think about how you’d feel if it was awful. Pretty quickly, you’d stop doing it. Why spend so much time doing something you hate?
If you can see the logic in the above, then that same logic applies to your working life. Okay, there’s a slight difference – you can’t simply choose not to work, given the need for money to fund your life – but there’s a nugget of truth in the point. If you’re going to spend a huge amount of time doing a particular thing, then doesn’t it make sense for you to at least not hate that thing? Maybe enjoyment is a push, but we should all at least be striving for tolerating our working environment.
Yet for the most part, we don’t. Instead, we all make excuses as to why our jobs are terrible – and excuse ourselves from having to do anything to improve our lot in life. Let’s examine some of the reasons – that are actually just plain old excuses – people give for not changing their career prospects. By busting these open, maybe you will finally be able to channel your abilities and your time into a new and exciting career path. Well, at least a new career path that you don’t actively dislike at least.
Excuse #1: “I Don’t Have Time To Change My Job!”
Sure, job hunting is a time-consuming activity. You have to work on your resumé, you might need to add some extra qualifications, you have to attend interviews. It’s not going to be easy, but do you really not have time for something? No time for something that might improve your life beyond recognition?
Think about how much time you spend, say, using social media. Or the hours of time you spend watching your latest favorite show on Netflix. Yes, that’s “down time” for yourself, and is an important part of self-care – but it’s still time. You do have time, you just don’t want to channel it into looking for a different job.
Remember, you don’t have to give over entire days to job-hunting or qualifications to improve your chances of success. There’s always another option that can save you time.
- Contact a recruitment advisor and outsource the choice for jobs to them.
- If you work in the retail industry, then you can take a customer service qualification from home.
- If you work in healthcare, then it’s possible to do an 100% online RN to BSN program from the comfort of your sofa.
- If you’re hoping to open your own business, then you can watch webinars from your kitchen to allow you to do it.
There’s always an option that can help to save you time. The internet is the greatest resource for job hunting and improving your qualifications; make sure it’s not going to waste.
Excuse #2: “I Might Hate A New Job More!”
Okay… but if we’re going to play that game, then you might be eaten by a stray antelope tomorrow.
It sounds ridiculous, but it’s the same thought process. The fact that things might not work out is not a justifiable reason for not doing them. If you don’t try, then you’re never going to know.
Remember, if you do find that you hate your new job just as much as you hated the old one, you’re not stuck there. You can leave that job too. There’s nothing wrong with being a little Goldilocks about it; switching until you find something that suits you just right.
Excuse #3: “I Don’t Know What I’d Do Differently.”
This is a genuine problem on some levels. Many of us ‘fall into’ jobs rather than having a direct career strategy, meaning that we get into an occupation and are then stuck there. We don’t know how to do anything else. This is a genuine reason for not leaving the job you hate, but it becomes an excuse if you don’t ever try to do anything about it.
There are so many ways now – some of them covered above – that you can add some strings to your bow. You might have ‘fallen into’ a career, but that doesn’t mean you can’t go and find another option – one that you deliberately throw yourself into. People are changing their careers in their 60s these days; you have got plenty of options open before you, if you’re willing to take the leap and do it.
What this excuse is usually based around is one of comfort. Your current job might not thrill you, but there’s a sense of: “well, it’s better the devil I know”. You’re familiar with the role, you know what you’re doing – and even if you actively dislike it, then established routine can encourage you to stick around long after you should have left.
It’s worth considering a few extra qualifications or even an adult learning class you do primarily for fun, just to see if you can activate the part of you that might want to pursue something different. You never know, you might be able to find something you are truly passionate about and thus love enough to be willing to break free of your comfort zone.
Given the amount of our lives we spend working, it would be a shame if we disliked every working day. By working through some of the solutions offered above, you might be able to begin the long road to changing your working life for the better. It’ll be better for your mind, your health, and your overall life experience if you do. Just remember to be honest with yourself about what you want; no excuses!
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