How to Know if You are Ready to Start a Family
Deciding when to have children is one of the biggest moments in anyone’s life. There are very few people that just feel 100% sure that they are completely ready, so it is completely normal to feel uncertain and of course, a little bit afraid.
Most women will tell you that they didn’t feel completely ready before they had their children and you hear people say ‘there is a never a perfect time’. So there is no wonder it is so confusing to know when it is the right time for you and whether you are ready ‘enough’ to commit to this next chapter in life.
Whatever your individual situation, there are a few solid signs that can indicate that you are in the right time of your life to start planning for a family. So read on to see how close you are to that new and exciting journey.
Willing to Make Sacrifices
One of the main things that people talk about when they have children is the sacrifices that come with it. It is inevitable that your life is going to change and that you are going to need to adapt your life to accommodate this new little person. Therefore a big sign that you are ready to have children is realising that you are ready to make sacrifices and change your life in order to put someone else’s needs before your own.
If you are still unsure about whether you are ready to change areas of your life then we recommend continuing to be careful and use contraception, until you feel more sure that you are ready to adapt your life. Extending yourself and your life for the care and nurturing of someone else is the essence of love and this is the heart of what being a parent is all about. Of course those feelings naturally come when the baby arrives, but if you are feeling that you are a million miles from being ready to make big changes then this is probably not the right time for you yet.
You Take Care of Yourself
We have heard the expression ‘you can’t take care of anyone else if you can’t take care of yourself’, banded around many times before. But this is never more true than when it comes to being a parent. The best thing that we can do as parents is to be the healthiest and happiest versions of ourselves that we can be. Not only should we strive to be as physically healthy as possible for our children, but we should also be emotionally strong in order to be the best parents that we can be.
Therefore another question to ask yourself is ‘are you ready to be your healthiest self, physically and emotionally?’ as that is what our children deserve, so this is an important question to consider.
Deep Down You Want it
Although it can be scary, terrifying even. Somewhere deep down, you just have to want it. We all understand the feelings of uncertainty and worry however we think that underneath it all most women know what they want. So if you are asking yourself whether you are ready to be a mother or not, ask yourself instead whether you ‘want’ to be a mother. If you do, all the other details will just fall into place and you can rest assured that you will be able to cope with so much more than you give yourself credit for.
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