Mental Health Matters Too: What’s Really Getting You Down?
When you hear people talking about health, it’s very common to assume that they’re discussing physical health. Mental health is becoming a more acceptable topic of conversation, but many of us are still reluctant to broach this subject. The truth is that mental health matters too, and you should pay attention to your happiness and wellbeing, as well as your blood pressure and your BMI. Everyone is different, and we all encounter different challenges, but here are some of the most common sources of stress, anxiety, and unhappiness.
Problems at work
Most of us spend up to nine hours a day at work. If you don’t enjoy your job, you’ve fallen out with a colleague, or your boss never pays you any attention, every day may feel like a challenge. If you’re struggling with your workload or you can’t face awkward silences in the office, try and identify solutions. Take the person aside and try and talk to them and resolve the conflict. If this doesn’t work, ask your boss for advice about how to move forward. If you’re juggling too many jobs, speak to your line manager, and see if others can pitch in or you can extend deadlines. The sooner you confront problems, the sooner they can be addressed and put to bed.
Do you spend most evenings arguing with your partner or do you feel like things have changed in the last couple of months? Do you find it hard to talk to each other or has the initial spark fizzled out? Are you worried that your partner may have been unfaithful or do you want different things? Before you embark on a mission to try and catch a spouse cheating, sit your partner down and have an honest, frank discussion. Ask them the questions that are whizzing around in your head, and listen to their responses. It may be that you’ve got the same concerns, and talking can help you find solutions. In other cases, you may find that both of you feel like things aren’t going to work and it’s best to go your separate ways. Sometimes, it can be helpful to talk to somebody who is removed from the situation. Going to couple’s therapy, for example, can be beneficial for some people.
Fear of failure
A fear of failure can really hold you back and dent your confidence. Today, we live in a society where we’re encouraged to shoot for the moon, and there are certain expectations that underpin what we do and what we want to achieve. If you’re a high flyer, you’ve got the dream home, and you’re married to a perfect partner, you’ve may have nothing to worry about, but this formula isn’t accessible to everyone. If you’re single, you’re stuck in a dead-end job, and you have no savings, you may feel like a failure. The reality is that it’s hard to make these dreams come true in this day and age. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself, don’t panic if things aren’t going exactly as you planned, and take each day as it comes. Try not to compare yourself to others or feel that you have to fit into a mold. Go easy on yourself, and focus on what you want to do, rather than what other people think you should do.
If you’re not happy, it’s time to work out why. The sooner you identify problems, the sooner you can start trying to find solutions.
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